Difficult but Neccessary
I saw this on Facebook and was instantly inspired to write (by the way, I love when that happens!) I have first hand experience with forgiving people who have never shown remorse for what they did to me and I can tell you that it was very difficult to do but very necessary and freeing. It has taken me a great deal of life experience, reflection and loving energy to realize that people hurt others for many reasons; most of which stem from their own pain and insecurities. Jealousy, greed and envy fuel the many injustices and acts of hatred that we see around us every day. It is easy to get caught up in a juicy bit of gossip, or rejoice in the downfall of people we don’t particularly like but when we do this, we draw that negativity back onto ourselves. When we choose to forgive people who haven’t even acknowledged the pain they caused, or apologized for their actions, we are choosing to do what is healing to our owns souls. You’ve heard it said before…forgiveness is not for the benefit of the ones who did wrong – forgiveness is a gift we give ourselves. Forgiveness frees you from analyzing and re-living pain over and over again. Forgiveness keeps you from wondering why?
Forgiveness does not mean you are ok with what was done to you; it just means that you refuse to surrender anymore of your energy and power to people who do not bring joy to your life Forgiveness is a pivotal moment in your healing process; only you will know when you are ready to do it. The person you are forgiving never needs to know you have made this choice; you can forgive people in the privacy of your own heart and the act of doing so will be life-changing for you.