Give your ego a rest to be at your best.

Give your ego a rest to be at your best.

Kindness

Sometimes it just makes sense to let go of the need to be right. As much as I fully support being assertive and speaking your mind when necessary, I also believe there are many instances when we put vast amounts of energy into seeking out evidence to prove we are “right” and never stop to consider how ridiculous the point we are making is in the first place. Before you interrupt a person’s story to correct a tiny detail he or she has remembered “wrong”, make sure your’re “correction” is important enough to derail the whole flow of the conversation. How many times have we witnessed people go back and forth debating a small detail of a memory, and end up going so far off course, they never get back to the original point of the story they were going to make. Stop arguing over little things. Stop focusing on what’s incorrect in another person’s words, and actually listen to the meaning behind their conversation. We all need to be better listeners. It is difficult when trying to express yourself to another human being when you know they are staring at you just waiting for the right moment to jump in and give the response they’ve been rehearsing while you were talking. Planning your next response while someone is talking, is not the same thing as listening. Listening is actually hearing what another person is saying to you – actively letting their words sink in, making eye contact with them, leaning in, nodding your head, and letting them know that they have your undivided attention. If a minor detail they give is incorrect, let it go and continue listening. If you always have to be “right” and interrupt people to correct the little things, you may find less and less stories make their way to you. Good story tellers gravitate to good listeners; don’t let the fact finder in you miss out on a great conversation.

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