Your BUT hurts
9 out of 10 times, your but cancels out anything good said before it. When someone expresses an idea to you, or shares their good news and you reply with “Oh, that’s great…but…” whatever you say next directly takes away any compliment you tried to give in the beginning. Don’t do it. Stop your but before it gets out there. If your kids get an 80 for the first time, just say “That’s awesome instead of “That’s awesome but maybe you can work harder and get an 85 next time.” You might mean well but your but always wins and all anyone remembers are the words you said after the but; and the rest gets erased. Be aware of your but. Learn to measure the weight of your but. Understand the power of your but and use it wisely. Your but isn’t necessary most of the time so keep it to yourself. End your sentence before your but steps in, lift people up with your words instead of dragging them down with your BUT.